To Holiday or NOT to Holiday?Tis the Question.

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Have you ever asked your furry buddy what their favorite holiday is?

Of course, you know yours, I’m sure your furry little companion does as well. Is it Valentine’s Day? A day bursting with reds, pinks and paper manchette hearts, glass bowls filled with toxic milk chocolate hearts they would love to eat evading every counter top, kitchen and coffee table. Could it possibly be the loud and obnoxious booms, howls, creaks and constant knocking of the cutest trick or treaters on a crisp cool fall Halloween night.

Maybe instead they love the brilliant shine and magic of Christmas, sniffing in the fresh pine. Maybe biting into one or two gifts to find as many doggie treats and toys as possible?

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Whatever it may be the holiday season is on the horizon and sometimes we two legged humans forget that our four-legged companions go through the hustle, bustle, and stress of the holiday season alongside of us.

I bet your thinking Thanksgiving has absolutely got to be their favorite. I mean it’s a dog’s dream right!?

Snacks galore! An abundance of everything! Turkey, pumpkin & sweet potato pie…don’t forget the ham ma’am.  Then the family who has no limit to what they are willing to share with the most adorable dog in the world. Oh! We can’t leave out the jackpot! The tiny humans running, plates in hand dropping crumbs, to massive chunks sometimes whole pieces of food of every kind.

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So, you’ve figured it out? Your dog’s favorite holiday is Thanksgiving…or is it? (Lot’s questions in this post I know) What if your dog’s favorite holiday is the same as yours? It isn’t that farfetched (No pun intended, okay you have got to admit that was a good one) Yes, your dog may love all the treats of thanksgiving but may become extremely anxious with all of the extra family in the house, filling up your living room and bathroom. If you are the type of person who suffers from anxiety, it’s very likely your dog will too.

While your fretting over how juicy the turkey should be, take a good look at your little guy…is he begging or possibly fretting along with you.

Alright we know he’s begging especially if your standing in the kitchen by that big fat juicy turkey! Although, once that turkey is out of sight he may share in the fretting along with you.

My advice, fret less and enjoy the moment more! No matter the holiday, it’s time to take a minute to appreciate life and all that it encompasses, the joy and sorrow. So, while you are busy wrapping those gifts, or bickering here and there with siblings about what house would be the best to host the dinner or maybe even feeling alone.

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Know that you’re not alone your furry bud is right beside you, watching, wagging and waiting patiently for that chunk of food to fall off your plate.

-Written by Life Writez

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Butterfly’s Last Illness

Last week we explored the journey of greiving a pet. This week I am featuring the very talented Rachel Mankowitz post “Butterfly’s Last Illness”. This is the post which inspired last weeks “Invisible Grief- The Loss of a Companion”. I hope this touches you the way it did me. Enjoy. Thank you to you Rachel for allowing me to feature you:)

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Four weeks ago, on a Wednesday night, Butterfly vomited white foam until she was empty. We had no idea what set it off. She’d been wheezing for a few days, instead of her regular coughing, but otherwise she was in the pink of health; especially since her hernia surgery two months before. Suddenly she was panting all night on the pillow next to my head. We were able to get her an emergency appointment at the clinic the next day and ended up seeing a doctor we’d never met before. She asked if Butterfly had eaten anything strange and we couldn’t think of anything she’d had access too, so she took an x-ray, and did blood tests, but she couldn’t find any explanation for the vomiting. She didn’t seem especially worried, though. She had the vet techs give Butterfly subcutaneous fluids and anti-nausea meds on the spot, and then…

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Invisible Grief- The Loss of a Companion

When you lose your best friend.

 

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You sit, curled up on the couch with a light read and a cup of smoking joe. As you sip slowly, you decide your home is missing something. A new vase? No, you have so many of those that you decided to stick some in storage. Maybe a new partner, nope you like your alone time and to hear your own thoughts. Then what could it be?

You go to work, walk in the office and boom it hits you.  You never noticed it before but there is a wall of pictures, not any pictures… dog pictures. As you slowly gravitate toward the wall you wonder how long has it been there, and why in the hell haven’t you noticed it before?

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Some of the pictures are small others are huge. Some dogs have Christmas hats and rain jackets on, you notice some of your co-workers smiling in the photo, which is ironic because some of them you have never seen smile at work. It’s gotta be the dogs, making them this happy. You decide, that’s it I want to smile like them, I want some of that doggie magic!

Okay, I realize that’s a bit cheesy. The beginning of the journey with your furry companion may have played out a bit differently. Maybe a thunderstorm, and the furry little guy running in front of your car with you having to swerve on to the curve to keep from hitting them. There is a possibility that it could have been a subtle situation with them coming into your life as a gift from a loved one.

However, your journey with your furry family member began and  you hold the memory  close to your heart. Time passes and you share Christmas, birthday’s and they become the background to your foreground. Without realizing it, they are always there while you cook sitting by the hot stove patiently waiting for that little piece of anything to drop. Barking at all intruders (who are usually only family). Hogging an entire side of the bed, leaving fur all over your comforter after the winter season. Going out of the way to teach you how to love by forcing you to trade in your hectic schedule for a simple walk in the park.

Then just like that, they are gone. The time flooding past you quicker then you ever would have imagined. So what now?

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Do you try to feel the space with a new companion? Take up a hobby? How do you numb the pain?

As you walk around the house that is just a little too quiet, you decide to go for a walk.

Wait that’s what you and your companion used to do. The tears begin to fall, and they don’t stop.

Smearing away the tears with a soggy kleenex your neighbor stops by to borrow your lawn mower. Perfect timing. You find yourself explaining your tears, with dull eyes they say “sorry” and walk away. You know they think it’s silly to cry over a dog.

As the days slowly roll on , you realize the sun just doesn’t shine the same. You begin to question if you are normal for grieving your furry companion this long.

I am here to tell you, yes you are normal. If you didn’t feel this way I would begin to think you weren’t human.

These little guys are so much more then pets, and when they die it leaves a blank space in our head and hearts. So, this post is for those who have lost a little guy or girl recently or a while ago.

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Cry!

Cry hard. Cry soft. Cry in waves or in blankets. Get it out, it is normal and it’s necessary. The love for your companion goes hand in hand with the grief you will feel.

Go Down Memory Lane

Remember the good and the bad. The times they made you laugh and the times they pissed you off (which will usually make you laugh anyway). Go to the places you used to go to together. This may make you feel closer to them, just because they are no longer with you doesn’t mean you can’t visit places that brought you joy.

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Make sure it’s someone who understands, there is nothing worst then talking to someone who has a misconception of pet lovers. Talk about it. What happened? Did they die of old age? Did they get lost. How do you feel now? It’s important to discuss how you feel with someone you trust to gain a greater perspective.

Let Go

Only when you’re ready. This does not mean you must let go of loving them or their memory, it only means time moves forward and so do you. Get another companion when you are ready (you will know when you are ready). Remember they will not replace your loved one, but may bring a new joy to you.

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It is never easy to lose anyone we love we can’t change losing them, only make the best while we have them.

This post is dedicated to Ms. Butterfly and her loving owner Rachel Mankowitz of  The Cricket Pages and all the furry companions that were lost this year. May you forever rest in peace.

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Written By Life Writez

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Aye! Aye! Sisters!

Give it up for the sisters!

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I am sitting in the yard watching the dogs.

It’s a cloudy day but they don’t seem to notice at all. They run carefree sniffing the ground and one another. I sink into the lawn chair going over the long day ahead of me when I noticed the sister Frenchie bulldogs had separated away from the chihuahuas and were jumping and playing with one another in their own little world. This wasn’t the first time I watched these two. They will go about running and playing with each other until they fall into a heap of puppy pile adorableness (is that a word…probably…I’ll use it anyway).

I begin to think how wonderful is it to have a sister in a doggy dog world?

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Having someone you can laugh with and confide in even on cloudy days. I believe that they are one of the many wonderful gifts this life must offer.

So, what exactly is a sister? I asked google assistant. Google gave me a rather matter of fact definition referring to lineage and daughters of parents…well something to that degree. Seems a bit too simple and shallow to me.

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I decided to ask the Frenchie sisters instead (yes, my lovely pet-lover reader I asked them) they gave me a sniff and continued with their Frenchie business. The thing that I love about my furry little guys is that they don’t say one word, but they show you a mouth full.

Watching those two in their tiny puppy pile a few definitions popped into my head of what a sister means to me.

They are your please don’t judge me because what I am going to tell you is going to make you fall out of your chair person. They are your let me borrow this outfit one last time person. They are the reason you made that dumb decision to dye your hair that outrageous color, then it became the conversation starter with the person who later became the love of your life.

If there was no sisterhood, who and the hell would we fight with?

Oh yes! I have witnessed the most adorable sister Frenchie fights! Pulling of ears and paws. Some of the most creative and brutal arguments on this green earth have been between sisters.  Telling them we would never talk to them again, then finding ourselves bored and lonely without them leading us to send the famous wyd? text message.

Let’s Have a KI KI

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Some sisters have no blood relations, and these sisterly bonds can be the greatest. Lunch and wine in the middle of the day for no reason to discuss the latest gossip or just to get away from the responsibilities of life. The occasional “kiki” at two in the morning, after a break up or a break down at the bar with that special someone. Find out what a “kiki” is click  here just in case you don’t know…Great song check out the version by the Scissor Sisters they did it best.

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 Getting back to the point. I have had the opportunity to meet some of the most extraordinary women after losing my biological sister some time ago. Within the pain of that loss I grew more appreciative of sisterhood, and begin to hold relationships more dearly. I now have several sisters that I call on, from all different races and walks of life. We hold each other’s secrets, joy’s and dreams. We encourage one another when we fail and feel discouraged. One of us always knows how to whip the other back into to shape by a sassy flash of the eyes and simple phrases like “get it together” or “you must be kidding”.

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Sitting here in this chair on a cloudy day, staring down at the tiny pile of Frenchie sisters.

I am proud to be a woman, I am proud to be a sister.

By Life Writez

This is dedicated to my beautiful sister Nesanet may you rest in peace & all my bold in control sisters of the world.

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Lake Calhoun & My Chi-Chi Coaches

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Chihuahua Exercise

Each summer I decide that I am going to conquer Lake Calhoun. Every summer I fail horribly.

This year I got a early start, late March ( here in Minnesota it can still snow…so that’s pretty early) decided to put on my running sneakers and take off. As I went bumbling out of the door I noticed tiny little Chi Chi eyes starting, I took that as a sign of them wanting to join me on my crazy escapade of CONQUERING Lake Calhoun.

Off we went full throttle!

There tiny little legs trotting as fast as they could. The cool crisp wind blowing through their fur, past there minature sized coat vests.

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Then it happened. I stopped. I begin to think.

I’m not getting anywhere…this is too much for them….I’m gonna pass out!

They jerked abruptly and turned to look at me, I hadn’t noticed but we had completed over half of the lake. I had felt like I was running sooo slow, I had no idea we were almost done.

As I stood there observing the beauty of the lake, and all of the runners passing me by I felt a tiny tug on the leash. It was my two tiny chi’s encouraging me to keep going. So I did, I figured if these tiny little guys can get through it so can I.

I honestly can say that it was them who helped me conquer Lake Calhoun this spring, we haven’t been back… oh but when we do!

Written by Life Writez

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Does your companion need a companion?

How to know when your companion needs a companion.

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We have all come home our beloved chihuahuas;

we walk in the door their tail wagging out of excitement to see us they jump nearly  slipping and falling on the tile floor. There tiny eyes are full of joy, and no matter how bad our day for a split second so are we. Ahem ( Clears throat) those are the really good days. 

On the other hand we have those not so great days. We walk in the door their tail is wagging ( much slower) and there tiny eyes are filled with suspicion.

You know something is up so you dash around the corner to find your living room in one piece except for the huge pile of doggie essence in the middle of your floor. No worries this is completely normal.

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Ahem.( Clears throat again…this can’t be good) What do you do when you walk in the door and there is a slight wag or none at all because your adorable chihuahua is hiding under your desk? You REALLY know something is amiss so you dash around the corner to find your living room in shambles!

While cleaning up the many piles of doggie essence and scrubbing tiny paw prints off the sofa you start to wonder why your companion who has  A. never done this before and B. would do this to you. Consider this…maybe your companion needs a companion. 

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Here are a few signs:

Chewing- You come home, everything including the dog toy is shredded to pieces. He’s in some corner of the house sleep.

Barking/Whining- You pull in the driveway and you can hear your furry guy loud and clear. You think “Once I’m inside he’ll settle down, he just misses me”. You find that he doesn’t and continues until the next morning.

Following you around…Constantly- We love when our little guys follow us around, but when you accidently begin to trip over them all the time something is wrong. This could be with a toy in their mouth or without.

Dogs (especially chihuahuas) are more like humans then we give them credit for.

They are extremely social and hate being left alone for long stretches of time. For example, I have a Frenchie who follows me and can’t stand to be away from me for more than five minutes no matter what I do. On the other hand I have a chihuahua who only wants to be bothered when she wants to be bothered…( there is so much more to that story, but I’ll leave it there).

The idea is to know your companions limitations, and your schedule. If you’re a workaholic and are never home, maybe it’s time to invest in a second companion for your lonely companion, at least they can keep one another company.

Here are some other considerations:

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Give the dog to someone who has time for it: If I am coming across as crass, your right. Someone has to speak up for the adorable furry and also very lonely companions of the world. Put yourself in their paws, no one like to be lonely.

Keep them on a daily routine: If you know you will be gone for reasonable stretches make sure to include lots of exercise, a hour or even thirty minutes goes a long way and is better than nothing at all.

Doggy Daycare: I know here in Minnesota we have so many, but choose wisely. The stricter the intake process the better for your beautiful pup. They can offer everything from socialization classes to training, some even have doggy cams and you can check on your cutie pie while you work.

Written by Life Writez

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Image Credit: Photo One-Hum Ideas

 

Holding Paws

A simple story of survival & dedication.

I have to be bravely honest and admit that while I have had the time to read others beautifully created blogs , I have not taken any time to cultivate my own. Thus, leaving many of you in absolute with-drawl of our beloved Chi Chi talks. For this I am delivering a second dose of Chi-Chi talks this week to get your heart, mind, and funny bone back in order.

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“No more water or food, now what will we do Yoda”

The frail seventy-one year old women stared blankly at the tiny chihuahua-terrier

her mousy brown fur blowing in the chilled wind. They had walked in what seemed like circles all day, at first it was exciting, a new adventure with her favorite person. The air raw and crisp, so many smells; mountain goat, squirrel, ocean, pine, rain, black earth so much room to run.

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Yoda loved when they came to the trails every year, she waited patiently to have bragging rights for the other chihuahua terrier, Bambi who lived next door. She had rolled around in every scent she could. No one her size had conquered the Olympic National Forest as many times as she had. The first time they had set paw on the peninsula, she had doubts. Her owner was not a youthful pup; her hair a stream of silver. So, she decided to keep close watch of her.

Today was different, they usually sat for lunch and water when the sun was high, and the air grew moist and warm. Instead they had eaten twice, and the sky continually grew darker birds, and bats echoing in the distance. They would be home in there warm bed, wrapped in the quilt she made her for christmas last year.

Something was terribly wrong, they were lost. She decided to keep her warm, and comfortable by wrapping her tiny body around her pale, cool hands.

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“Well Yoda, if I die here I’ve lived a good life. I’ve raised my children, traveled and the best is I am not alone. I have you little one. No fear I love you”

Yoda knew she wouldn’t die, or her silver haired owner. So she wrapped herself tighter around her pale cool hands and fell asleep.

By Lifewritez

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The inspiration for this story is dedicated to Sajean E. Geer & her tiny chihuahua terrier, who had the courage, and love for one another to keep each other alive. If you would like to read the news clip Missing 71 & Chihuahua Terrier

Tell me how this story has inspired you, all comments are welcome.

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Art Credits/ Image One- 16-year-old Dimitra Milan

Top Ten Tuesday! Ten Reasons Dogs Are Better Than Cats

All this time I have been wondering why I am more of a dog person. Phil Taylor of the entertaining and funny blog Phil Factor breaks down ten hilarious reasons why, you picked a dog instead of a cat.

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10. Dogs always warn you when there’s a house fire.

9. According to Cruella Deville, they make excellent coats.

8. Dogs are too stupid to lie.

8. The Grinch had a dog. (Who knows his name?)

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7. Dogs often solve mysteries (see Doo, Scooby)

6. Dogs are capable of making noises you can hear more than three feet away.

5. When Timmy falls down a well dogs will always tell you.  Remember Baby Jessica? Yup, dog told them where she was.  (I hope she reads this. Hi Jessica!)

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4. Brian Griffin (R.I.P.) fom Family Guy, funniest cartoon character ever, is a dog.

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3. Dogs always act like whatever you’re saying is really interesting. Cats won’t even feign a little interest.

2. Dogs will always clean up food you drop on the floor. In fact, my dog is officially my housekeeper.

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1. If my dog hadn’t followed me up to…

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Walk the Blues Away

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Last week I met an eighty-year-old man who I thought was sixty.

 

RAIN & CAFFEINE WITHDRAWAL…

It was around six in the morning, raining and least to say I wasn’t too pleased about walking the dogs in the rain. I remember rising that morning and not shining but instead trying to blot out the morning sun by stuffing myself deeper into my pillow.

I marched and mumbled down the parkway attempting to avoid puddles but to no avail. I wanted to get home as quickly as possible so I could enjoy my morning caffeine injection and deliberate on how I would go about my day.

QUIET REVOLUTIONARIES…

On the parkway, there is a small pond, and if you get out early enough you can watch the geese. I don’t know whether I decided to become entranced by the geese, or lack of caffeine caused my legs to freeze. While I stood in the rain with my little guys, I noticed him there smiling and talking to his soaked shiatzu. This intrigued me, mostly because I always thought people who spoke to their dogs in public were revolutionaries (like myself).

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He laughed at himself when he noticed I was smiling at him, talking and smiling at his dog. For the next twenty minutes, he told me he loved a woman for over forty years, she passed and so did all their friends, and what he had left was his Nina after the famous Nina Simone.

They walked the parkway every morning the same way he and his wife had. He expressed to me that not only would the house be lonely without her, but he probably would never leave it. When he told, me he was eighty I initially thought he was sixty.

I WANT TO BE FOREVER YOUNG…

I went home and I thought about living until the age of eighty. I imagined not being able to call someone from my generation to discuss  how “crazy” the “new generation” has become “nowadays”.  I thought about how easily the man continued to smile. As I sat there and sipped my coffee, I figured out why he looked so young. It wasn’t his clothing, skin or hair. It was joy, this man had mastered finding joy in something as simple as walking his dog.

I don’t know your name, and I don’t know if I’ll see you again. I just want to say

thank you.

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We Got the Beat!

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If you follow this blog faithfully, you have become very familiar with two things specifically. One is that I don’t always post every Wednesday (but when I do its good stuff) the other is that I believe dogs (Chihuahuas especially) have their own personalities, and speak their own language.

FIRST THINGS FIRST…

Call me crazy but to me it makes no sense that such a variety of dogs could all have the same exact personality or needs. It kills me when my non-dog lover friends make generalized comments such as

“Can’t you just feed the dog scraps…it’s a dog”

“Why did you get “it” a heating pad? It’s a dog”

“Why did you buy clothes?” …it’s a dog”

Alright, I get it, I get it! You have confirmed it’s a dog. It has four legs, with fur and pants when hot.  As a dog-lover I would like to respond for all the other dog lovers. They are OUR dogs! OUR dogs and guess what non-dog lovers.

THEY ARE SO MUCH MORE THAN DOGS TO US!

MOVING RIGHT ALONG…

Okay now that the rant is over, and I cleared up what has been wanting to be said since the first paw/hand shake. Shall we move along.

I am a massively obsessive music lover, give me a stream of smooth Jazz and I am completely satisfied. The type of music I listen to for a day depends heavily on my emotions. Monday can bring on a lengthy marathon of Aerosmith, where a Wednesday can be some slow sultry ballads from Sade.

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The day I noticed the Chihuahuas enjoyed the same type of music I did was a comfortably warm and sunny Friday. I began the day with popular hits from Prince. While Raspberry Beret thundered out of the speakers and I imagined I was Lisa & Wendy rocking out with the late Prince. I sashed around the house singing at the top of my lungs and noticed little Chi-Chi eyes following me.

MUSIC IS LIFE…

As I put the bottle of body spray I was singing into on the coffee table, I observed the slow wag of tails, and expression of slight amusement.  I quickly turned down the music and asked the idiotic question “you guys like Prince huh?” Of course, they do! Doesn’t everyone? I decided to try some Tupac, nothing heavy just a little Keep Your Head Up kind of Tupac. The tails continued to wag.

The music binge began, I played everything from Metallica to NWA and guess what? Some songs received several wags others a howl, and the worst no response at all. Most of the songs they didn’t like neither did I. I ended the musical binge sitting on the floor by the stereo while Imagine by John Lennon flowed through the air. I think that it’s their favorite, can you blame them?

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