To Holiday or NOT to Holiday?Tis the Question.

Chihuahuas in stocking

Have you ever asked your furry buddy what their favorite holiday is?

Of course, you know yours, I’m sure your furry little companion does as well. Is it Valentine’s Day? A day bursting with reds, pinks and paper manchette hearts, glass bowls filled with toxic milk chocolate hearts they would love to eat evading every counter top, kitchen and coffee table. Could it possibly be the loud and obnoxious booms, howls, creaks and constant knocking of the cutest trick or treaters on a crisp cool fall Halloween night.

Maybe instead they love the brilliant shine and magic of Christmas, sniffing in the fresh pine. Maybe biting into one or two gifts to find as many doggie treats and toys as possible?

Valentines

Whatever it may be the holiday season is on the horizon and sometimes we two legged humans forget that our four-legged companions go through the hustle, bustle, and stress of the holiday season alongside of us.

I bet your thinking Thanksgiving has absolutely got to be their favorite. I mean it’s a dog’s dream right!?

Snacks galore! An abundance of everything! Turkey, pumpkin & sweet potato pie…don’t forget the ham ma’am.  Then the family who has no limit to what they are willing to share with the most adorable dog in the world. Oh! We can’t leave out the jackpot! The tiny humans running, plates in hand dropping crumbs, to massive chunks sometimes whole pieces of food of every kind.

Burnt Turkey

So, you’ve figured it out? Your dog’s favorite holiday is Thanksgiving…or is it? (Lot’s questions in this post I know) What if your dog’s favorite holiday is the same as yours? It isn’t that farfetched (No pun intended, okay you have got to admit that was a good one) Yes, your dog may love all the treats of thanksgiving but may become extremely anxious with all of the extra family in the house, filling up your living room and bathroom. If you are the type of person who suffers from anxiety, it’s very likely your dog will too.

While your fretting over how juicy the turkey should be, take a good look at your little guy…is he begging or possibly fretting along with you.

Alright we know he’s begging especially if your standing in the kitchen by that big fat juicy turkey! Although, once that turkey is out of sight he may share in the fretting along with you.

My advice, fret less and enjoy the moment more! No matter the holiday, it’s time to take a minute to appreciate life and all that it encompasses, the joy and sorrow. So, while you are busy wrapping those gifts, or bickering here and there with siblings about what house would be the best to host the dinner or maybe even feeling alone.

Chihuahua licking lips and looking at food on plate at dinner table

Know that you’re not alone your furry bud is right beside you, watching, wagging and waiting patiently for that chunk of food to fall off your plate.

-Written by Life Writez

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Invisible Grief- The Loss of a Companion

When you lose your best friend.

 

Doggie Angel

You sit, curled up on the couch with a light read and a cup of smoking joe. As you sip slowly, you decide your home is missing something. A new vase? No, you have so many of those that you decided to stick some in storage. Maybe a new partner, nope you like your alone time and to hear your own thoughts. Then what could it be?

You go to work, walk in the office and boom it hits you.  You never noticed it before but there is a wall of pictures, not any pictures… dog pictures. As you slowly gravitate toward the wall you wonder how long has it been there, and why in the hell haven’t you noticed it before?

Dog and owner hugging

Some of the pictures are small others are huge. Some dogs have Christmas hats and rain jackets on, you notice some of your co-workers smiling in the photo, which is ironic because some of them you have never seen smile at work. It’s gotta be the dogs, making them this happy. You decide, that’s it I want to smile like them, I want some of that doggie magic!

Okay, I realize that’s a bit cheesy. The beginning of the journey with your furry companion may have played out a bit differently. Maybe a thunderstorm, and the furry little guy running in front of your car with you having to swerve on to the curve to keep from hitting them. There is a possibility that it could have been a subtle situation with them coming into your life as a gift from a loved one.

However, your journey with your furry family member began and  you hold the memory  close to your heart. Time passes and you share Christmas, birthday’s and they become the background to your foreground. Without realizing it, they are always there while you cook sitting by the hot stove patiently waiting for that little piece of anything to drop. Barking at all intruders (who are usually only family). Hogging an entire side of the bed, leaving fur all over your comforter after the winter season. Going out of the way to teach you how to love by forcing you to trade in your hectic schedule for a simple walk in the park.

Then just like that, they are gone. The time flooding past you quicker then you ever would have imagined. So what now?

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Do you try to feel the space with a new companion? Take up a hobby? How do you numb the pain?

As you walk around the house that is just a little too quiet, you decide to go for a walk.

Wait that’s what you and your companion used to do. The tears begin to fall, and they don’t stop.

Smearing away the tears with a soggy kleenex your neighbor stops by to borrow your lawn mower. Perfect timing. You find yourself explaining your tears, with dull eyes they say “sorry” and walk away. You know they think it’s silly to cry over a dog.

As the days slowly roll on , you realize the sun just doesn’t shine the same. You begin to question if you are normal for grieving your furry companion this long.

I am here to tell you, yes you are normal. If you didn’t feel this way I would begin to think you weren’t human.

These little guys are so much more then pets, and when they die it leaves a blank space in our head and hearts. So, this post is for those who have lost a little guy or girl recently or a while ago.

Crying over the pooch

Cry!

Cry hard. Cry soft. Cry in waves or in blankets. Get it out, it is normal and it’s necessary. The love for your companion goes hand in hand with the grief you will feel.

Go Down Memory Lane

Remember the good and the bad. The times they made you laugh and the times they pissed you off (which will usually make you laugh anyway). Go to the places you used to go to together. This may make you feel closer to them, just because they are no longer with you doesn’t mean you can’t visit places that brought you joy.

Talk About Them with other pet loversBaby with dog

Make sure it’s someone who understands, there is nothing worst then talking to someone who has a misconception of pet lovers. Talk about it. What happened? Did they die of old age? Did they get lost. How do you feel now? It’s important to discuss how you feel with someone you trust to gain a greater perspective.

Let Go

Only when you’re ready. This does not mean you must let go of loving them or their memory, it only means time moves forward and so do you. Get another companion when you are ready (you will know when you are ready). Remember they will not replace your loved one, but may bring a new joy to you.

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It is never easy to lose anyone we love we can’t change losing them, only make the best while we have them.

This post is dedicated to Ms. Butterfly and her loving owner Rachel Mankowitz of  The Cricket Pages and all the furry companions that were lost this year. May you forever rest in peace.

Butterfly

Written By Life Writez

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Does your companion need a companion?

How to know when your companion needs a companion.

companion pup

We have all come home our beloved chihuahuas;

we walk in the door their tail wagging out of excitement to see us they jump nearly  slipping and falling on the tile floor. There tiny eyes are full of joy, and no matter how bad our day for a split second so are we. Ahem ( Clears throat) those are the really good days. 

On the other hand we have those not so great days. We walk in the door their tail is wagging ( much slower) and there tiny eyes are filled with suspicion.

You know something is up so you dash around the corner to find your living room in one piece except for the huge pile of doggie essence in the middle of your floor. No worries this is completely normal.

Poop guy

Ahem.( Clears throat again…this can’t be good) What do you do when you walk in the door and there is a slight wag or none at all because your adorable chihuahua is hiding under your desk? You REALLY know something is amiss so you dash around the corner to find your living room in shambles!

While cleaning up the many piles of doggie essence and scrubbing tiny paw prints off the sofa you start to wonder why your companion who has  A. never done this before and B. would do this to you. Consider this…maybe your companion needs a companion. 

Dog destroys living room

Here are a few signs:

Chewing- You come home, everything including the dog toy is shredded to pieces. He’s in some corner of the house sleep.

Barking/Whining- You pull in the driveway and you can hear your furry guy loud and clear. You think “Once I’m inside he’ll settle down, he just misses me”. You find that he doesn’t and continues until the next morning.

Following you around…Constantly- We love when our little guys follow us around, but when you accidently begin to trip over them all the time something is wrong. This could be with a toy in their mouth or without.

Dogs (especially chihuahuas) are more like humans then we give them credit for.

They are extremely social and hate being left alone for long stretches of time. For example, I have a Frenchie who follows me and can’t stand to be away from me for more than five minutes no matter what I do. On the other hand I have a chihuahua who only wants to be bothered when she wants to be bothered…( there is so much more to that story, but I’ll leave it there).

The idea is to know your companions limitations, and your schedule. If you’re a workaholic and are never home, maybe it’s time to invest in a second companion for your lonely companion, at least they can keep one another company.

Here are some other considerations:

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Give the dog to someone who has time for it: If I am coming across as crass, your right. Someone has to speak up for the adorable furry and also very lonely companions of the world. Put yourself in their paws, no one like to be lonely.

Keep them on a daily routine: If you know you will be gone for reasonable stretches make sure to include lots of exercise, a hour or even thirty minutes goes a long way and is better than nothing at all.

Doggy Daycare: I know here in Minnesota we have so many, but choose wisely. The stricter the intake process the better for your beautiful pup. They can offer everything from socialization classes to training, some even have doggy cams and you can check on your cutie pie while you work.

Written by Life Writez

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Image Credit: Photo One-Hum Ideas

 

Holding Paws

A simple story of survival & dedication.

I have to be bravely honest and admit that while I have had the time to read others beautifully created blogs , I have not taken any time to cultivate my own. Thus, leaving many of you in absolute with-drawl of our beloved Chi Chi talks. For this I am delivering a second dose of Chi-Chi talks this week to get your heart, mind, and funny bone back in order.

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“No more water or food, now what will we do Yoda”

The frail seventy-one year old women stared blankly at the tiny chihuahua-terrier

her mousy brown fur blowing in the chilled wind. They had walked in what seemed like circles all day, at first it was exciting, a new adventure with her favorite person. The air raw and crisp, so many smells; mountain goat, squirrel, ocean, pine, rain, black earth so much room to run.

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Yoda loved when they came to the trails every year, she waited patiently to have bragging rights for the other chihuahua terrier, Bambi who lived next door. She had rolled around in every scent she could. No one her size had conquered the Olympic National Forest as many times as she had. The first time they had set paw on the peninsula, she had doubts. Her owner was not a youthful pup; her hair a stream of silver. So, she decided to keep close watch of her.

Today was different, they usually sat for lunch and water when the sun was high, and the air grew moist and warm. Instead they had eaten twice, and the sky continually grew darker birds, and bats echoing in the distance. They would be home in there warm bed, wrapped in the quilt she made her for christmas last year.

Something was terribly wrong, they were lost. She decided to keep her warm, and comfortable by wrapping her tiny body around her pale, cool hands.

Woman and dog

“Well Yoda, if I die here I’ve lived a good life. I’ve raised my children, traveled and the best is I am not alone. I have you little one. No fear I love you”

Yoda knew she wouldn’t die, or her silver haired owner. So she wrapped herself tighter around her pale cool hands and fell asleep.

By Lifewritez

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The inspiration for this story is dedicated to Sajean E. Geer & her tiny chihuahua terrier, who had the courage, and love for one another to keep each other alive. If you would like to read the news clip Missing 71 & Chihuahua Terrier

Tell me how this story has inspired you, all comments are welcome.

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Art Credits/ Image One- 16-year-old Dimitra Milan